Losing a child is among the most tragic experiences one can face. The crushing grief puts immense strain on the marriage, family relationships, and friendships that few can understand. That’s why this book was written. In it Candy McVicar, a grieving mom who leads a ministry for grieving parents, and Dr. Gary Chapman, relationship expert and author of The 5 Love Languages®, team up to help couples who are facing the unimaginable.
There is nothing that can make the pain of losing a child go away, but healing is possible with intentional hearts and the right resources.
They’ll teach you how to
Cope with the complex feelings that come with the grief process
Understand your spouse’s unique grieving needs and support him/her
Use the five love languages through grief
As a momma who lost a child through miscarriage, I found myself holding back tears (unsuccessfully) within the first few paragraphs of chapter one and continuing throughout Holding Onto Love. Though Dr. Chapman and McVicar are coauthors, it is McVicar’s writing that captures the varied and intense emotions of grieving a baby, this due to her personal experiences. Holding Onto Love will be a resource I recommend to mothers grieving a pregnancy or infant loss.
This book has been the best resource I’ve come across in developing a bereavement program for one of America’s major children’s hospitals, on behalf of parents, grandparents and siblings grieving the loss of a baby or child.
This book is not just for parents. The authors address some chapters to family and friends, helping people understand how to support their grieving loved ones and avoid saying and doing hurtful things. The authors also acknowledge the grief and complex emotions that family and friends experience when a baby dies. This book is very gentle, thorough, practical, and life-affirming, and I highly recommend it.